When my girlfriend is mad at me, trying to make up with her is actually more difficult and challenging than when I was trying to court her and win her heart. Girls, when really mad at a guy, can give you this look that will make you cringe and feel like you’re the most evil person on the planet.
Of course, you’d want to make up with her and go back to the way things were, but to make her forget her anger, forgive you and make up with you is easier said than done.
Peace offering is always a must
For one, when my girlfriend is mad at me, a peace offering is always a must. It can be flowers, or her favorite fast food meal, depending on the kind of girl that she is.
If she’s the romantic type, you can go for the long-stemmed rose, or if she’s more practical and loves ice cream or cake, you can go and buy those. Not having a peace offering when you’re trying to make up with her without a peace offering is like going into war without a weapon.
Don’t overdo it and don’t splurge on your peace offering, as she may either think you’re trying to buy her love, or she might enjoy having peace offerings and will find every shallow reason to be mad at you in the future.
Never say bad things about her
One thing that I never, ever do when my girlfriend is mad at me is to say bad things about her. When you’re in a fight, the first impulse is to say bad things about the other person. If she’s mad at you, she may post bad things about you in Facebook or rally her friends against you and what you should do is not face her head on.
Instead, if someone asks you about the fight, say only good things about her. These things will reach her and will make her feel bad about being mean and she’ll think you’re not so bad after all.
Take responsibility for your actions
If you screwed up, take responsibility for it. And when you do decide to go apologize to your girlfriend, make sure you know what you did wrong. When my girlfriend is mad at me, and I said I was sorry, she asked me what I was sorry for.
Seriously, if you can’t answer her, don’t try to apologize as it will make her even angrier. Knowing exactly what you did wrong means you thought about what you did and you know what’s wrong.
To a girl’s mind, if a guy knows exactly what he did wrong, the less chance there is that he’ll make the same mistake again. Saying sorry blindly without knowing the exact reason why you’re sorry will make her think you just want to end the fight and this would make your apology insincere.
Follow through once your girlfriend says she forgives you
It is important that you follow through once your girlfriend says she forgives you. When my girlfriend is mad at me, but after a while decides to forgive me, I make sure she doesn’t change her mind by taking her out on a date and making her feel good about being in a relationship with me.
Just because a girl says it’s okay and she forgives you, it doesn’t mean she is not second guessing herself. What you need to do is distract her from these thoughts and show her a good time as a way of saying, “See? Not fighting is so much better than being mad.”